Women like to be thwarted

Here is a note from a contributor to Facebook:

“One thing I have discovered is that women will do everything in their power to get YOU to get them what they have always wanted and then hate you for giving them what they have been fighting you for. Ive even heard a few women that tell me that their previous boyfriend / husband always gave them what they wanted as if that was a problem that leaded them to their breakup. Once I was consoling a man that was confused over his divorce stating, “I don’t understand why she divorced me, I gave her everything she asked for.” Then another girl said to him, “Well maybe she didn’t want that.” It was all the man could take as he yelled out to that girl, “What do you mean she didn’t want what she was asking for?!”

Its sheer insanity.

Ive been at peace for many years living my life alone.

What do you think?”

I think women like to be thwarted. It is in their genes. Like men, they evolved biologically and culturally in a harsh environment, and they don’t like life to be too easy. I suspect it is one reason Western women are often unhappy.

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10 responses to this post.

  1. I’m not sure I’d put it that way. Women don’t like to get bored and will become destructive and/or self-destructive if they find themselves at a loose end. An easy life is a boring life. The solution isn’t necessarily to make life hard – a pampered woman can be happy as long as she has things to occupy her… which is why in the old days women of leisure tended to do voluntary work. Her personal life needn’t be challenging, but she does need a challenge. And I don’t think men and women are all that different in that regard!

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  2. My take here is that at a certain point, a woman needs to see her man act manly, and if he doesn’t get chances where he can stand up to power in his work and in his social life, she may make chances for him to be manly in standing up to her. I’m actually praying for my brother-in-law in this regard–I don’t know if his wife is halfway out the door or just “excrement testing” him, but it’s rough.

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    • Agree with you there, Bike Bubba. Being manly is vital for husbands if they don’t want to end up cuckolded or divorced. Few men nowadays, however, seem to be able to indulge their wife while also keeping her ‘in line’… which means women continue on the ‘spoilt princess’ path which they started on as little girls – to the detriment of all concerned. I don’t agree with the being mean ‘to keep them keen’ mantra – mean is what men who don’t know how to be manly resort to – but it’s not surprising that some men find this a better option to being walked over by a woman.

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  3. Posted by juliath83 on July 14, 2016 at 1:13 am

    You can give them what they want….you just have to make them wait until they lose all hope of ever getting it first. Only then can they be pleased with it. It’s the emotional rollercoaster they’re after. Too many men give too quickly, much to their demise. Of course, you shouldn’t be giving them too much to begin with, but that’s another story.

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  4. Posted by kneeledbeauty on July 14, 2016 at 11:34 pm

    If females are in an environment where they can have whatever they need, then they will become greedy; dissatisfied with what they have and always wanting the newest version. This is partly why female fashion changes every year.

    A Man thinks differently. If He wants something, He wants it for a specific reason, it fulfills a function, there’s an actual need, etc. females want things for decoration or whim. When a Man gives a female everything she asks for, He is doing so because He thinks she wants things for the same reason He does. The problem is, He then comes off as weak and a push over. Find out why she wants something before giving it to her. If it’s a valid reason, then fine but don’t give it too quickly. If it’s to update the cushion covers or a newer model vacuum when the old one works fine, say no.

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    • We’re all generalising, of course. I, for one, shop more like a man – I have an objective which I will achieve. Likewise, I know men who are like women, always dissatisfied and wanting something new. No one, man or woman or child, should get everything they want – that’s how you spoil someone!

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      • Posted by kneeledbeauty on July 15, 2016 at 7:17 am

        Oh yes, it is not a black and white, 100% thing. There will always be people at either end that are opposite, the exceptions to the norm. But it is the exceptions that prove the rule. The ones who are different stick out exactly because they are different, they get noticed.

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