The most schoolmarmish, patronising meme I have seen


About half the smug women sharing this little piece of hypocrisy will be Christians. Someone should tell these women to check. Scripture actually tells WIVES to respect their spouses. Not husbands (our command is to love).

This tripe appeared in my Facebook feed today. My comment was as follows:

“There are things a man might say to his wife that are not for his mother or daughter’s ears. This is an impossible standard … would wives like to be held to this standard themselves?”

How would  a wife feel if something she said in an intimate bedroom moment were written down on a piece of paper and handed to her son? Say, “Do me, baby, do me doggy style hard …”




7 responses to this post.

  1. The natural conclusion of fully absorbing social marxist and communist attitudes, along with the destruction of privacy. Everyone apparently has the right and even the duty to hear everything.


    • Posted by Julian O'Dea on April 5, 2016 at 11:21 pm

      Five seconds thought should have made whoever designed that meme realise how absurd it it. Is there anybody, man or woman, who would want everything they said in private broadcast?

      As I implied, I have seen some patronising rubbish from “basic bitches”, but this one really deserves a Nobel Prize for stupid.


      • Posted by Julian O'Dea on April 5, 2016 at 11:23 pm

        And yes, superslaviswife, I think I see your point. It is a kind of Salem-esque vision of the world, which leads to the broadcasting of private remarks so as to cause communal shaming. It is what is behind a lot of the moral panics we have seen in recent times, particular in environments like colleges.

  2. Whoever created it must live in a fantasy world. Any decent mother’s response would be to tell her daughter-in-law to grow up and not go ‘crying to mummy’ to solve her problems… something like “you married him – your problem, not mine”. And to think that the relationship of wife-husband is even comparable to mother-son or father-daughter is simply warped.


  3. Unbelievably stupid.


  4. Posted by RichardP on April 7, 2016 at 4:20 am

    The meme confines itself to rude or disrespectful statements. It does not direct itself to all statements. I think the meme is poorly worded, but the larger point being made holds up.

    The man who doesn’t want another man to disrespect his daughter by saying X, Y, and Z to her, and who would not think of disrespecting his mother by saying X, Y, and Z to her, should probably think what it means if he is willing to say X, Y, and Z to his own wife. However, I would be surprised to discover that many men are hypocritcal in that way. If they don’t respect their wife, they most likely don’t respect their mother either and wouldn’t care what they said to her. The meme seems a solution in search of a problem.

    Also, Titus 2:4 tells us that God does not just expect husbands to love their wives; he likewise expects wives to love their husbands. Julian, I’m sure you know that – but your emphasis here may suggest to the uninformed that God only expects husbands to love their wives.


    • Posted by Julian O'Dea on April 7, 2016 at 4:59 am

      My point was that wives are told – twice as I recall – in Ephesians to respect their husbands. And yet we hear these constant demands that husbands respect their wives.

      I think the meme is more than poorly worded. I think it is patronising and unrealistic. It is unrealistic for two reasons. One – nobody is perfect and it is absurd to expect no angry or ill-considered words to pass a husband’s lips. And Two – nobody can legislate what couples should say to each other in private. Women are absolutely notorious for claiming they want a respectful tone but responding to something else entirely.

      The meme is shockingly bad advice for both husbands and wives.


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