Lexie on what to wear to your wedding: Pt 1

Lexie has featured at this blog before:

“Two questions for Lexie.”

“How women view weakness?”

“Lexie writes to men again.”

Here are some recent comments from Lexie on what women should wear to their wedding:

“For those who need actual guidelines – and, let’s be realistic, many women have been brought up without any sense of propriety – here are some basic pointers: cover the knees and cleavage – it’s okay to show you have cleavage but not to show the cleavage itself. 1 is acceptable, 2 is not, and 3 is debatable/depends on culture.”







“I think the biggest mistake that women make when attempting to be modest is to take the boring white strapless evening gown and merely put some lace or a bolero over the top to cover the shoulders and/or cleavage. Modesty isn’t just about complying with some rules about covering various parts of the body. A modest dress has to work with the women wearing it, and that means choosing a a dress that fits, both in terms of size and character. It has to suit the wearer and help her to radiate her own personal femininity. Certainly it is important that the dress isn’t too tight or too revealing, but when it comes to weddings it also needs an aura of maidenhood. If a bride bothers to have her father give her away to her groom, she needs to look the part and be set apart. We have a recent tradition (since Victorian times) of white dresses as an attempt to achieve this, but this isn’t always flattering and in my opinion demonstrates a lack of character. Brides would be much better off using the money for their dress on a tailor-made gown that flatters their figure and displays their personal taste. Any gown can be made in white if that’s what a bride wants, but the starting point should be the style, not a rack of white dresses in a wedding salon.”

” … find out what style flatters your figure – cover your upper arms unless they are as thin as Keira Knightley’s and nicely tanned – even nice upper arms look awful in wedding photos …”

” … choose a dress in which you feel comfortable, even if it means one that some people feel isn’t a ‘real’ wedding dress – a hemline just below the knees is fine, so too is a well-tailored ‘suit’. Amal Clooney, for example, looked fabulous and feminine in culottes for her civil ceremony, and this is a definite consideration if you are having two ceremonies. I generally dislike trousers on women, but better to look stylish and feminine in culottes than awkward and meringue-like in a puffy dress.”





7 responses to this post.

  1. How to look Yummy without falling into chavviness. 🙂


    • Posted by Julian O'Dea on April 4, 2016 at 10:22 am

      Yummy is good.

      Yucky is bad.


      • Posted by Julian O'Dea on April 4, 2016 at 10:26 am

        What is perfect about No. 1 above is that you can sense she has all the feminine attributes but you don’t get the full tour.

        And notice the look on the face of No. 2. Arrogant. What my grandmother would have called “bold”. As I blogged recently, modest clothing suggests modesty and humility.

  2. Reblogged this on To our bodies turn we then and commented:
    My wedding dress looked a bit like 3.not as form fitting and without the flare. I would caution brides to be a little more conservative. While I was completely comfortable in it that day, I’ve grown in modesty and regret the dress. I agree if you can cover up your upper arms do,do not wear boring strapless, find a flattering, suitable cut and avoid “cover ups.” Great advice. I wish I read this 7 years ago. Hind sight is 20-20.


    • Posted by Julian O'Dea on April 4, 2016 at 1:03 pm

      My wife wore an off-the-shoulder dress that showed off in a tasteful way her shoulders and bosom. There were frills (sort of) that set off her bust and the upper arm problem was solved by having the sleeves sitting there on her arms.


      • Posted by Julian O'Dea on April 4, 2016 at 1:06 pm

        The only area in which I would demur is in the wearing of trousers. I dislike all culottes and “skorts”, and of course pants – although on reflection my wife did wear jeans a bit as a young woman.

  3. Posted by kneeledbeauty on July 6, 2016 at 12:03 pm

    Personally, pants of any kind are a no-no. Soon-to-be Mrs Clooney looks like she is trying to be considered her groom’s equal and the pants look like they are some sort of barrier or shield to her female parts, which is not the right message to be sending on your wedding day.


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