Women with short hair are surprisingly controversial. Personally, I find this woman intriguing, but a lot of men profess to find short-haired women unattractive:
Short-haired women are certainly not absent from media imagery:
Short-haired women seem to have been common and fashionable in the 1950s and 1960s. The girl posing beside the car in the shots below was Elaine Sterling, then girlfriend of the man, Larry Watson, who was a famous custom car guy in California and later went on to a modest career in TV and movies. The photos were taken in about 1957.
Conversing in the Manosphere, a man learns things about himself. One of the areas in which I seem to be an outlier is in actively preferring short haired women. I married one. Not only do I not share the almost religious preference for long haired women most men state, but I positively dislike long hair on women. To me it evokes entangling seaweed, the snake locks of a gorgon, and more mundanely, in my experience, it gets in the way. It does have one use that sounds like fun, but you can’t have everything.
The girlfriend I had with long hair seemed to spend all her time washing it and fussing over it. I came to resent it.
Women can look great with short hair. All too often, long hair seems intended to draw attention away from an uninteresting face.
One comment I have received is that perhaps I am a latent homosexual. Why else do I find these boyish looking women attractive? I was inclined to discount this as obvious nonsense, but I am prepared to consider it further now.
My favourite theory has been that my mother always had short brunette hair, and men are sometimes said to imprint on the maternal appearance and seek out women of similar appearance as mates. Freud claimed that men may do this in order to satisfy Oedipal urges. There are also theories that we prefer people who look like our relatives for selective or genetic reasons.
But maybe that is not the answer. Which brings me back to the homosexuality issue. I remain dubious. My working approach has always been that it is not the act that decides, but whom you do it with. Without being too indelicate, I have never had a psychological objection to acts with a woman that can also be done to a man. (A moral objection, yes, definitely.) Does this support the latent homosexuality hypothesis?
Well, I have never done anything with a man, and have no desire to, not even in dreams.
Maybe there is just a lot of variation in male heterosexual preferences, and I am in the normal range. And I would add a few points in support of my preference for boyish women, a preference that tends to include a slim build and a generally gamine appearance, e.g. Audrey Hepburn. (My wife has nice womanly breasts, but smaller breasts would have been fine by me.) As Freud noted, the essence of femininity is the absence of a penis. T&A are in some ways secondary. Moreover, long hair and large breasts are the female features that are the counterparts to the male appendages. In some respects, a short haired, slim bodied woman is more female since the crucial absence of a penis is thrown into greater relief. At least that seems to be the way my mind construes the appearance of such women. In general, short haired women look more female and sexier to me than long haired girls. As well as prettier.
That intriguing nude reminds me of this famous painting [Arrangement in Grey and Black No. 1, also called Portrait of the Artist’s Mother]. I wonder if the photographer was subtly invoking it:
On the subjects of Whistler and short-haired women, here is his painting of Molly Finch:
Another thing I have noticed is that I like the bottomless look on women:
A female dressed like that has of course no breasts clearly visible, but her empty feminine crotch is still evident, which makes her look rather like a very boyish girl.
It is possible of course to have slightly quirky or kinky tendencies that simply manifest themselves in the choice of a certain kind of woman. One could have a touch of the Oedipus Complex and also like to see some masculine traits in a woman, and simply choose a woman who meets those desires. Perhaps I married my wife because she looked a bit like my mother, and because she has short hair and a contralto voice. So what? At the end of the day I go to bed with a woman. It is possible, on reflection, and taking into account other things I find attractive or at least interesting, that I am a basically normal heterosexual man with maybe 5% attraction to passive males. Perhaps the latter admixture makes me prefer rather boyish women.
When you think about it, a man with tendencies to being an active homosexual and wanting to dominate an inferior “male” might find a short-haired, small-breasted woman, with her empty crotch, a pretty good facsimile of an inferior male. And he might not care too much which of her orifices he uses for pleasure. Or, alternatively, a man who has a highly dominant attitude to women might prefer a woman with a slim body and none of the female power inherent in long hair or breasts, and also be inclined to use all her orifices.
Another possibility is that I like women who look like me because of the narcissism that Freud said is present even in adult love. This site at least lists “Their female look-alikes” among “9 Weird Things That Turn Men On”.
Another point occurs to me. I think I dislike long hair for the same reason I dislike long, flowing dresses. They look too random and messy. I like the more tailored look in women’s skirts and blouses. And I like short hair on a woman partly because it looks neater.
A further point is that short hair tends to show off a long, delicate neck on a woman rather well.
The girl here is Emma Fitzpatrick, in a small part in the film Social Network, as the girlfriend of the Sean Parker character played by Justin Timberlake:
Winona Ryder in Boys (1996):
I think this woman looks quite nice, despite the unflattering expression. Jamie Lee Curtis mostly seems to sport short hair:
I am not so sure about this example. Demi Moore, who had short hair in her famous role in Ghosts. I think this is getting too boyish and it is not flattering:
I think the line is crossed here into too boyish or masculine. The problem may be that, whereas Emma Fitzpatrick has rather small, elfin features, Demi Moore has slightly heavier features.
But I do think girls like this are attractive:
Some interesting discussion on short hair on women here. (The comments are mostly quite unhinged. What IS wrong with American women?!)
Mel Gibson in happier days, with his short-haired wife:
This Miss Jamaica, pictured below, apparently suffered in the recent Miss Universe contest for having short hair. I think she looks pretty good myself:
A recent tweet that I tend to agree with:
Something I wrote on the “handsome woman”, which touches on the subtle appeal of a woman who looks just a little bit masculine. Taller women can also be quite sexy to my mind because one’s mind tend to construe them as having the more imposing build of a man, which only serves to emphasise the female lack of a penis.
The short-haired look shades into the “sexy librarian” look – I married one of those:
Bruce Springsteen pulls a “surprised” short-haired young Courteney Cox out of the audience at 3:20: